Husband help 😭

I use to be so in love with my husband. 2.5 years ago I had our first daughter. After having her I think I suffered from a little ppd and ppa. I was very stressed and worried constantly. We got really distant after her because he would always half ass everything and I went to the end of my ability for my daughter. It would up set me and I tried to explain to him some things he needed to fix and it would ALWAYS turn into a fight. He was honestly wrong at doing some things and just wouldn’t listen to me or take my advice. I wasnt rude about it one bit. Baby number two comes along I felt amazing after this birth not how I was feeling before. For about a week it felt like our love was going back to the way it use to be before baby number 1. But thennnn it was gone. I stay home and literally bend over backwards for everyone, cook, clean and make sure everything is perfect. Im exhausted I only get up for the baby too because he doesnt hear her and if I wake him up to help hes so mean when woken up and turns into a hassle and I was just better off doing it myself. He also still trys to half ass things and not take his time. VERY FRUSTRATING. But if it’s something for him he takes all the time in the world. I try to communicate with him and explain myself and he just takes it and his response is its always me im a horrible person. And i say i didnt say that and then it turns into an argument and we get no where. He also is on his phone a ton playing stupid games or texting his friend. It bothers me when he does it around me or the girls because he works all day from 4am- 6pm so we dont see him much. Its really sad I tell him he pays more attention to his texting conversations more than my conversation. Idk what to do anymore. Im so over trying to talk to him because its not working. Im tired of trying. But I know he loves me and the girls but idk i just dont have that feeling I had before baby number 1. I was obsessed with him. What do I do to fix this or bring that feeling back 😭😭😭