Husband breaking me down..

This is a hard thing for me to admit but I really need help on knowing how to deal with my husband when he is in Attack mode.. sometimes it comes out of no where and he just find fun in breaking me down.. I try really hard not to take it personal but I’m a women who admires my husbands opinions and inputs and when he says things to me that break me down it’s in a way that he almost just wants to be one up than me.

Recently he’s started doing it about sex. Telling me if I don’t behave there will be consequences and that meaning we won’t have sex. Telling me other women want him and hows he’s the best.

It just hurts.. I don’t know how to not lash back with something hurtful in return to get him off his high horse.

He normally breaks me down about other things to make himself look so high and mighty or to manipulate and control the situation.. it ends up turning into a argument because I choose not to be talked to like that.

What can I do in these situations when I’m triggered to not enable him to continue?

I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just denies and denies and denies.

He uses these tactics to control and it’s just breaking down my self esteem and making me feel worthless..