Why not us?

Yesterday, my SO found out one of his best friends is going to be a dad.... mind you, we didn’t even know he was dating. It just seems like everyone around us is getting pregnant...just not us. He took it pretty hard after reading that text, last night. A couple weeks ago, I had a break down for the same reason. It’s extremely hard to stay positive. We’re going on 8 months of trying.. I know it is nowhere near how long some of you have been trying, though. Kudos to you all! It’s getting harder and harder to cope with the negative tests. People keep telling us to stop “trying” but many don’t understand our situation. Had I not been “trying”, I would’ve never found out that I wasn’t ovulating. Now, I’ve been on medication for a month and I actually got my period on my own. No having to provoke it. My SO suffers from major back pain due to his lower discs degenerating and a pinched nerve down his leg. He’s also a journeyman plumber who builds up buildings, which means he’s digging holes by shovel, sometimes by tractor, jumping in and out of ditches, carrying and laying extremely heavy pipes, getting under or into tight spaces, installing heavy equipment, etc,. His job is very hard on his back, so you can only imagine how he is once he gets home. He is exhausted and more often than not, in some serious pain... I’m telling you all this because this is why we can’t stop “trying”. Our sex life takes a hit because of these issues. He has no issue whatsoever down there. It works, perfectly! The pain, though.. is what stops us from having a normal sex life. There are times where we’ve gone a whole month without sex because of how bad it can get. In the months we’ve been trying to conceive, he’s been muscling through the pain just to make sure we have sex on the days I was supposed to be ovulating. We want a baby so bad, but it hasn’t been easy for us. I’m also an OBGYN clinic nurse, so you can only imagine how that one feels. I see girls getting pregnant, left and right. It makes me so upset, though, when they don’t even care or they don’t wanna keep the pregnancy. My clinic doesn’t do anything but refer those patients out to Albuquerque, though. I’m hoping this month will be our month... if you read all the way up to this point, I thank you for taking the time to read my rant. It’s much appreciated. I just needed to vent and it seems this is the only place I can really do that.... Good luck to all the other ladies who are struggling along side me. Baby dust to us all!