How do you achieve your sexy??

I tried wearing nails, doing my hair, wearing different clothes which I do like from time to time, but right now I feel so unsexy and ugly and that doesn't help. I feel like every woman "reaches their sexy" at a certain point through gaining confidence and regular practices of self love but I'm do lost. Where do I start? I just got out of a little "fauxlationship" I suppose and I want to feel good about myself again. I don't want to think about him anymore.