Am I wrong

Any family get togethers or weddings and funerals my husband ALWAYS makes us late. And we always argue. Today was my uncles funeral and I told him yesterday we had to leave our house at 9:40. He said okay and that he will come. I wake him up at 8:30 to give him enough time. He complains the whole morning how we have to be there so early. It started at 11 but my dad wanted us to be there at 10. I told him we can drive separate if he doesn’t want to go that early but he said we could ride together. He finally gets in the shower at 9:30 and of course he had to shave so he didn’t get out of the shower until 9:55. I depend on him to help me get everything ready to go. We have a 2 yr old plus I am pregnant. He didn’t do anything. I told him at 9:45 that we are going to go and he can drive separate. By the time I got our daughter in the car and got everything else in he was done in the shower and I told him if he hurried we could ride together. Then he said you can go I am not going. It hurts me because first of all it was my uncles funeral and also it means so much to me to be somewhat on time to family get togethers. Especially important things. So we got in this huge argument and he says I am pushing him away from me. How the F am I pushing him away? If something was important to him I would do it. Or I would be okay to drive separate but he still had a problem with that. I feel angry and upset at him. So also he had to go to work after and told me he would had to be at work at 1 or 2 but he was home when we got home and he didn’t look at me or talk to me. I don’t know what I am doing wrong and why I feel so hurt about it. What do I do and say and how do I fix this

I’ve told him how it makes me feel and nothing changes so the solution is to drive separate or he doesn’t have to go. But to say I am pushing him away really hurts