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I just wanted an outsider opinion because family and friends are biased and want babies, no questions asked lol. And I'm likely a little overly concerned due to past struggles when I was on my own with a little one, and before I met the hubby. Thank you all for giving me a little more clarity! I can make good executive decisions, but this one I was just...lost on! Thank you!😊
I just can't decide for sure...one way or the other (see description)
I have a 10 year old. I was a single mom for 8 years before I married my now husband. I struggled financially during that time putting myself through college and raising my son. I'm a full time nurse, working 12.5 hour shifts. My husband works full time (usually around 12 hours too) and I'm also back in college trying to advance my degree. We are currently trying to pay off our cars and student loans to reduce monthly expenses.
We unexpectedly got pregnant earlier this year, but I had a miscarriage and I desperately wanted to try again until I started thinking about it too much and kept going back and forth...unable to decide. Hubby wants a baby, but is okay if we wait...I was supposed to get my new IUD this week and I canceled my appointment because I'm still not sure. It's like I wake up every day thinking something different. Family is also about an hour away but would help when they can. I'm scared because of previous struggles. I'm 28 now and didn't want to have any babies after 30 (personal preference) What do I do!? HELP!
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No one can decide this but you and your husband. Maybe sit down with your husband and a healthcare professional and discuss your fears/worries/hopes about it, it may be enough to help you come to a decision easier. Hope you find the answers you're looking for 🙂
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I get that! My partner isn't much of a talker either. Still might be worth talking to a healthcare professional, even if you go on your own instead. It might help clear your mind and settle on a decision, then you can just tell your husband whether you're ready or not and go from there 🙂
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Thanks. He's over talking about it. He's not really a talker anyways, but he has indicated he wants a baby but he's willing to wait, of course, if that's what I want. It's really just me...freaking out and being annoying lol.
I’d probably opt for the don’t try, don’t prevent thing, but only if you can handle that kind of flux and unknown.
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That's kinda what I've been thinking. I keep forgetting that I won't be alone in this this time. I'm pretty regular which takes out any potential surprise but I just will try to ignore! Lol
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