How did you know

I been married for over 6 years and been with this person for 15 yrs... we are strained and stripped emotionally with 2 teen kids..we used to fight physically and verbally all the time ..it has slowed down a lot but every now and then we do it...I am emotionally and physically tired and over our marriage and this relationship is I feel over but he still holds to his hope..but I see we are not fit together and express this to him but he has anger issues, hasn't truly grown up .. unmotivated...no work ethic...no drive..just plays games day and night....etc... and I have control issues I know ..I like things a certain way and I am old fashion in love ....but I'm independent as well ...Im not a dopey romantic but I love Romance..