Why is the first response to trouble always “get a divorce”?!

Question

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t believe in staying in abusive relationships. 
But it seems that every relationship post I see the advice is inevitably “leave him!” Or “file for divorce!” 
I don’t know why there aren’t more people advocating counseling or communication. It’s like people are saying “my husband made me feel bad because my food sucked” and right away people say “don’t tolerate that he’s a jerk!” 
When I made my vows, they were promised to continue even when it seemed unfair or impossible. 
Why do you think so many people today are unable to tolerate distress of any kind and are quick to quit?
Like I said, this doesn’t apply to true harmful or abusive relationships. But just because something is difficult and uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s harming you either.

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Lol I’ve never seen people suggest divorce over something so silly. But when someone treats the other person pretty shitty and counseling won’t happen because one party refuses, and communicating isn’t working, what else is there? We don’t even know these people, how are we supposed to give legitimate advice? And yeah I’m not going to tolerate bullshit. A lot of people aren’t up for that anymore. Cause you know divorce is actually legal and a divorced woman isn’t seen as actual disposable garbage anymore.

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People treat marriages as disposable. No one wants to actually do the work to sustain a lifelong relationship so they just walk away. I actually take my vows seriously and want an intact family for my kids so I choose to keep loving, trusting, and respecting my husband even when it is hard. And he does the same for me. We both make mistakes,  but we work through them.

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If it involves any form of cheating or abuse, then I don’t support counselling. 
Both of those show an immense lack of respect for the other person and if you can’t give your partner even the basic form of respect, then you’re not worth it. 
If however things are just a bit rough or are going downhill then I believe communication is ideal because everyone gets into a slump every now and then and your partner is usually the first person you take your stress out on as they are always around.

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Bc some people prefer an easy way out. It’s also a cultural thing.

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Umm there are plenty of people who suggest counseling or therapy. Yeah some people say leave but plenty advise counseling, that’s one of the most common responses on here

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I told my brother last night I can't eat ice cream for breakfast because my husband would judge me. He immediately started telling me how I'm the strongest woman he knows and he'd support me if I left.... 😬 I was like yeah he can be a dick but so can I so... 🤷 I mean we've been dieting for years if he didn't say something about me eating ice cream for breakfast I'd be more concerned. It's not just the app it's people these days. They literally think of marriage as a throw away. It's sad.

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I know it's kind of crazy. It kind of makes me scared to get married. I've had to have some talk with my boyfriend make sure that he wants to work it out if we have problems and not just leave right away. I think you should at least try to work it out first

Why is the first response to trouble always “get a divorce”?!

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