Opposite shifts

For the families where you work an opposite shift than your spouse, how are you handling it? Do you still get daycare? Or does the person working 3rd shift stay up until you get home??

My husband is looking for a new job. He wants to make more money. I’m the breadwinner by far. There’s a position opening up at his job that pays 3 more an hour but it’s on nights. Like 9pm-5:30am which he would have like Tuesday/Wednesday off, just like he does now. I work 6am-2:30pm but my job I can start from home and pop on at like 6:30 if need be.

My MIL is fighting stage 4 lung cancer so our plan of her babysitting has gone out the window because we do not know what’s going to happen after the chemo, radiation and therapy. I am deathly afraid of daycare and we both of trust issues of people we don’t know watching our kid.

I’m not due til November so we have plenty of time. My husband said he’d have no problem napping when the baby does and then sleeping when I get home for work and we have a late dinner together around 7pm. He is the king of the power naps.

How do you handle opposite shifts?

The job hunt is not going well at all and it breaks my heart. He is incredibly smart. Sadly, all of his experience is security ambassador at a casino which is where he is at now barely making 11 an hour. And 3 years at a retail place and another 3 years at another retail place. He feels ashamed. But he provides health insurance, even if it is a HDHP, for us where my job does not offer family plans just a single plan.