Wine and pregnancy?

So I’ll be 9w tomorrow and I’ve gone out a few times with friends and obviously order non-alcoholic drinks (I wasnt a big drinker before) and they were like you can drink red wine. I literally can not bring myself to drink it. I ate a deli sandwich and felt horrible about it. How do you get people who don’t have kids and ones with kids to stop telling you what you should do. I want to freak the F*CK OUT ON THEM. It’s my child and pregnancy not yours.