Can anyone relate?

Question

How do you tell your husband that you don’t like his mom? or dad? ( long story short they use us for money, constantly guilt trip us because we aren’t able to visit every other day, make a huge scene if we don’t text back or answer phone calls, also my MIL threw a huge fit saying I don’t treat her right all because I asked her not to touch my LO’s hands, because he’s teething & those little hands practically live in his mouth now😅 .. and so. much. more. I’m going.. crazy🙃

Answer

😂😂😂 you don't treat her right because you ask her not to touch babies hands. God what is wrong with people. 🤦🏻‍♀️ My husband never understood what I'd complain about because his mother always cornered me to disrespect me when my husband wasn't around.  Until our son was 1 and he saw it first hand from his mom and grandma. That was a year and a half ago. Since then everything has gone to shit. My husband has finally started sticking up for me as well as our children. His mother ALWAYS blames me, literally, everything is my fault. My MIL hasn't seen my son since August. Has never met my daughter, she's 6 months on Saturday. She originally blamed me saying I make her uncomfortable. My husband told her to cut that crap. Then she said it was because she didn't get the Tdap. So which one was it? My husband totally called her out on it too. She emailed him just belittling the shit out of him. Got his grandma involved. It's a mess. They haven't spoken since January. She didn't even call on his birthday. 😒 Which I know hurts my husband. That being said, I'm very very open about having zero respect for his mother. Thinking she's a bitch.  It'll be a LONG time before she's allowed in my children's lives. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Just be straight forward. Have your reasoning but always be supportive of their relationship as well.

Answer

Both me and my husband have complicated relationships and histories with our parents. So we made a deal quite early in our relationship. 
If it gets to the point that one of us can’t stand the parents then our house becomes a no visiting zone and all contact will be maintained solely by the individual outside the home. In regards to contact with our kids, the terms are to be solely dictated by the spouse whose parents are in question. 
My husband has since completely cut contact with his mother, haven’t seen her for 4 years now. Yay! 
We see his father every now and again, he lives abroad, talks big about wanting a better relationship but is useless at doing so. (He will never plan ahead he just turns up in our home town expecting us to drop everything) 
I no longer have contact with my own father, his doing not mine. Should he ever reach out my husband will not be entertaining him at all. I’m not sure how I will react should that happen but It’s been 6 years since I last saw him: though he did message when he heard my daughter was born. I offered an opportunity for reconciliation but was ignored. 
So that leaves my mother, the only one of our parents who we both have a great relationship with. She also lives abroad but keeps on contact with calls/messages and we see her 3 or 4 times a year. Though that will be more now she has a grandchild!
Be honest with your partner. If there’s little things that bother you say so. 
If there’s big things that are downright disrespectful bring those up too. You can never stop your spouse from having contact with their family but you can insist on boundaries within your own home.

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