At what point would you get a divorce?

I’m unhappy. I have 2 children, I work full time, and I do literally everything around our house except mowing the lawn.

Currently, I have mastitis. I feel like I have the flu. I missed breakfast because my husband slept in, instead of helping get the kids ready for daycare. Then I went to work, missed lunch to take my daughter for her shots/checkup, went back to work. Then came home, made dinner, cleaned up, and started working on laundry.

My husband went to work, went to a 2 hour lunch with coworkers, came home and went to sleep.

I’m just tired of feeling run down every single day. I have a disorder that gives me almost daily headaches, but when he has a headache he needs to stay in bed all day.

I’ve talked incessantly about how I need help. But he doesn’t listen. He makes about 4x what I make. I feel like he thinks because he basically supports us while I add a few dollars to the fun budget, that he gets to do whatever. I feel as though I work just as many hours as he does, he can at least help a little around the house. Hell, I’d be happy if he’d just play with our son while I clean rather than sleep. It wouldn’t sting as much if he wasn’t napping at every free moment and then complaining that he’s tired.

And what’s worse, I could live with taking care of him if he bothered to show any appreciation for me or our marriage. Our anniversary was last month. We were home together all day (we were both on maternity/paternity leave), he never mentioned it. When he went to pick up our son at school, he picked up some half dead flowers at the grocery store, and dropped them on the table by the door when he came in and that was it. I’d have been happier if he’d just said Happy Anniversary, but he never said a word.

I feel like he doesn’t want to be married to me anymore. I feel like he’s not physically attracted to me either.

I want to leave. But in my head I keep thinking that leaving because my husband is lazy is petty. Leaving because he sucks at anniversaries is shallow. Leaving because he doesn’t pay attention to me is childish. But I’m not sure I can live with this.