IUD finger checks

So everyone with an IUD knows that they’re supposed to do their monthly finger checks to make sure their IUD hasn’t shifted or fallen out. I don’t do these checks and have had mine for a year now as of last month, I worry about it a lot. My fingers are super tiny and can’t reach up that far. I’ve only been able to feel it sometimes after sex because of the insides being super relaxed and more adjusting to my fingers but even then sometimes I can’t feel it. Does anyone else have this difficulty or different solutions as to how you personally are able to feel it with every check, positions maybe? Honestly anything helps.