Divorce and kids...

This might get long and I might rant...

My husband was married for 3 years to his ex and they had 2 daughters. (Now 9 and 7) She has full custody because when they split he was working 7 days a week about 100hrs a week driving tow truck.

We’ve been married 7 years and have a son and daughter of our own. (6 and 3)

I used to be really involved and helpful to set up visits and communicate but the last few years I’ve taken a big step back and let my husband deal with everything, way less stress and drama for me.

We get them every other weekend.

There have had a few bumps in the road over random stuff and a few fights but they have been getting along really well and working through things like adults.

I’m just so frustrated sometimes.

He asks to be kept up to date with school, dance, sports and everything but every single time she drops the ball her excuse is “I’m just so busy all the time, it slipped my mind, I forgot” He feels shut out. She never tells him about softball or soccer or dance recitals and if she does it’s 24 hours notice or less and he works a ton of hours so he can rarely make it. Or she will tell him at the end of a sport season like soccer a few years ago we made it to 3 or 4 practices and softball last year he made it to the last game of the season.

She doesn’t offer school pictures or sports pictures. He asks for copies and she “forgets” for weeks.

He tries and tries and then gets frustrated and gives up. He will voice how he feels left out or not kept in the loop and she just talks in circles and gives excuses and he doesn’t have the time or energy to start a big fight with her. He says talking to her is like talking to a brick wall. Things go in one ear and right out the other. (She just comes across as stupid to me)

She works for her parents so has a self made schedule, she drops all 3 of her kids at daycare all the time and the kids spend every single weekend at her parents. But she is super busy 24/7. Too busy to send schedules or cut out a wallet size picture.

I get life gets busy and stressful but I am so frustrated and sad for my husband because he basically feels stuck.

Anyone have an advice or words of wisdom?