Let me start by saying I trust my husband 100% and I honestly don’t think he is cheating on me but..

On April 1st my husband came home early from work and when I asked him why he refused to tell me. He thought I was being nosy and just wanted to be a pain so he refused to answer. Now I have access to our bank accounts as we share one account and then he has a bank account in his name only which I do have access to. We also share a credit card which I have access to but we also have our own separate credit cards that we don’t share but we agreed that we would use only the shared one for any purchases made etc.. anyway, that day I noticed he left without a lunch for work and I noticed he hadn’t bought anything either to eat at work (he does every single day) so when he got home early I asked him how come he was home early and he didn’t want to answer then I asked him what he ate cause he left without a lunch and refused to answer again. So I obviously found this strange but I let it go. In the back of my mind I was still having all these scenarios in my head. Fast forward to today, I’m 36 weeks pregnant and off from work for the next year so I go get the mail, I saw we received a statement from his other credit card so I decided to open it. I see there’s only 2 transactions from that day he came home early and one of them is at a sushi place we frequently go to for 45$. So he obviously didn’t eat alone so now I’m starting to get pissed cause there’s something he’s not telling me. So I confront him about it and my first question to him was “who did u go to sushi palace with the day u came home early?” He immediately says “alone, why?” LIE #1 , so I proceed to explain why I’m asking him this and he tells me he’s not telling me bc I’m always nosy and always asking him questions about his whereabouts and miscellaneous etc.. keep in mind my husband doesn’t go out, he has a lot of friends but is more of a home boy.

Also we have a very open relationship as in he has friends that are girls and I’m ok with him talking to on the phone and texting with them and same for me. He’s also a very friendly and sociable person and has a heart of gold and would help out anyone in need whether they are a girl or a boy. He doesn’t see the difference in gender when it comes to friends and ppl he cares about. We trust each other and we have no reason to doubt one another either.

Sooo now I’m getting pissed but still keeping my composure to make sure this convo doesn’t turn into something bigger so I proceed to ask him again “so you’re really not going to be honest and upfront with your wife about who you brought to sushi the other day ?” He then tells me to sit down bc he sees I’m about to cry and asks me exactly what’s wrong. I explain to him exactly how I’m feeling and that I feel he’s taking me for a fool and he’s hiding something from me. We talk about a few things we had on our mind and then I said “I wanna know what this sushi story is about” so he proceeds to tell me that he brought a coworker to eat bc he was stuck one day and asked her to pick him something up on her way to work and she did and said she didn’t want the money for it so he told her he owed her a lunch. So that day he was leaving work early and said since he owes her a lunch he offered to take her to this place to eat. He has spoken to me about this coworker before and she is battling cancer and is married with kids (not that that means anything these days, just giving you a little background). He says they spoke about her cancer and about our baby on the way and our families etc and it was simply bc he owed her a lunch.

I asked him why he hid it from me and he admitted that there’s certain things he doesn’t tell me bc he doesn’t want to argue with me and start a fight even if he knows he’s not doing anything wrong necessarily and is sometimes scared to tell me bc of my reaction. Now, yes I’m hurt that he brought her to lunch but honestly it’s not that big of a deal if he would have been open and honest with me about it to begin with instead of trying to hide it. If he would have told me I would have told him it was fine bc I trust him but bc he took the sneaky way to avoid a fight is what’s hurting me. We talked it out and he said he understands. I’m not even mad I just feel hurt.

Just thought I would ask you guys what u think ? I’m obviously not going to leave him for this, he truly is a great man and ppl make mistakes, I guess I’m just hurt.