AM I BEING DRAMATIC?!?!

So I’m really getting IRRITATED and it’s making me second guess the future of my relationship.

My boyfriend of 4 years and I adopted a puppy a few months ago. My puppy is now 8 months 65lbs and he’s giving us a run for our money!! He is a giant workload but nonetheless putting the effort in is really rewarding. I love that little monster and I know our little troubles will fade..

ANYWAY I guess what I’m here to vent about is ..... IM DOING EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING alllllll theeeeee timeeeeee and my bf does the bare minimum. It’s starting to make me feel like a one man band!

Things that cross my mind:

Will I be a one man band if we ever have a child?

Will he ever change and do more?

Will I be the only parent to do all the important things all the time?

If so ... IM TIRED.

I’ll give more details:

Most recently i put my dog in training school. I’m always the one to take him. My bf never offers and when I ask if he could take him OR atleast come WITH me it’s like pulling teeth to the point where I’d rather not even ask. And this goes for things such as walks to the park or drive to the store. Sometimes he’ll come but most times I have to put up a fight to get him to come with me to the store or with me and my dog on a walk.

So in relation to our puppy class our trainer had sent us notes on things to work on with our dog which I had forwarded to my bf being that I work 40 hrs a week he is home the MOST and I’d like for him to work on these things with our dog so that it’s consistent and he learns on both our time. However he did not do it. He says “yea I’ll do it later” and when the time comes he didn’t do it. and then the conversation turns into “he doesn’t need that with me only you he’s good with me” BUT THE POINT IS HE NEEDS TO LEARN OBEDIENCE WITH EVERYONE AND I CANT TEACH HIM BY MYSELF WHERE IS THE TEAM EFFORT HERE?! and don’t think it’s only with dog training it’s with all little but big things like doing things at home the correct way or giving the dog something at the designated time or making sure that something gets done properly and/or at the right time!

SO NOW my mind can’t help but get upset because I’m wondering if it will always be like this?! IF we were to ever have kids will I be the only parent taking them to important doctors appointments or special academic lessons or events. Will I go to the park with my child alone because he doesn’t feel like going as a family. These are things I’m starting to think about but am I being dramatic? Am I wrong? Does he still need to grow up? I don’t know but it’s very overwhelming and feels quite lonely.