I NEED A WOMAN’S OPINION

(No, I’m not pregnant)

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year & a half. He’s the only boy my mother has liked (he’s a keeper❤️), but my mother has some issues with his mother.

December 2017: My boyfriend’s sister gave birth, and his mom was sick. Her kidneys were failing & she needed heart surgery. She (his mom) had high baby fever & told MY boyfriend she didn’t care if he got a random girl pregnant because she wants all her kids to give her at least one grand baby while she’s around (we’re in high school still!).

One & a half months ago (March 2019): His mom & I went baby shopping for her daughter’s SECOND baby. She said to me, “I cannot wait to do this with you and (boyfriend’s name) baby”. I simply responded with, “I’m only 15 (almost 16) and I don’t want to have kids, possibly ever.” Her response: “yeah, we need to talk about that decision you’re trying to make.”

A few weeks ago: My boyfriend’s mom had cancer removed & the cultures went to New York. She had the audacity to tell me, “I want you guys to give me a baby.” And I said, “no. I will not purposely get pregnant considering my mom had s hard time being a teen mom.” She responded with, “I’m not afraid to play the cancer card. I want a baby.” My boyfriend walks in and tells her, “Mom. You need to stop. She’s 15 & I’m not making much money bc I have to help you & dad pay bills. We need to finish school before worrying about that.”

Yesterday (April 18th): My boyfriend’s mom wants me to go see a movie “Unplanned” to show me how wrong abortion is. I’m not bashing anyone for their beliefs, everyone has their own reasons. I just don’t want to be persuaded into believing something different than I already do. She said, “Well if you don’t go then I’m making your boyfriend come with me. Have a nice spring break.”

I don’t know what to do😔 I’m only a teenager. I don’t want children. My boyfriend may not even be able to have children, ever. And that’s okay with me bc I do t see myself to ever be the mothering type. I do t know what to say to his mom to get her to stop pressuring me in order for me to give her a grand baby.

Update: THANK YOU LADIES 🙏🏼 SO MUCH FOR THE KIND AND LOVING RESPONSES. It has been a tough year & a half with the comments family members say about my relationship, due to the fact my mom was 15 when she was pregnant. And it’s difficult having my boyfriend’s mother pressuring me into getting pregnant, especially since I want to be unconditionally loved by her & her husband. I plan to stand my ground and my mom knows about the situation. I know this is off topic but a lot of you have mentioned college and finishing schooling. Today, I go to a college for placement testing in order to take college classes my junior & senior year of high school! Wish me luck! Again thank you so much, as it is greatly appreciated💓