Other half’s sister refusing to remove photos

So I have a thing about photos of my daughter going online, like FB and Instagram for example. I just don’t like it. Read too many horror stories about perves getting hold of them and uploading to dodgy sites. Plus, I don’t live online I live in the real world with my daughter. Photos do not need to be online.

Everyone knows this.

Here and there they’ve put things online without asking, so I’ve said to take things down or let some of them slide to avoid conflict.

Now, today I’ve asked my other half’s sister to take down the photos she’s put up of MY daughter in her swim suit. I’ve said that there’s two photos which are okay to stay up - compromise and all that.

To which she says she will not remove any as she (my daughter) is clothed and that she wouldn’t put anything on that’s inappropriate. I am FUMING. I’m going to be having words in person about this. The very fact I have said that I don’t want swimsuit photos online should be enough. She is MY child. You do not refuse to take photos down of my child. If the shoe was on the other foot and someone refused her I know she’d be rampaging.

My other half thinks I’m being weird, or over the top cause ‘what are the actual chances of some weirdo finding them’ (chances are quite high cause her profile is public but that’s not the issue) When really he should be backing me up as I am his partner, we’ve been together 6 years and talking of marriage, and more importantly this is our child. Wether I’m being over the top or not, the fact that a parent has asked something should be reason enough to listen. I said to him if you put some photos on of our friends daughter in a swim suit and she said to take them down, what would you say? He said well of course I’d apologise and take them down. MY. POINT. EXACTLY.

If after talking in person solves nothing I’ll be letting them know I’m not afraid to go through the reporting system on the profile to have them taken down. I can not believe I’m being disrespected like this as a mum.

Quick edit: if the conversation in person doesn’t go well I definitely am reporting. I just hope it doesn’t come to that as it’ll cause even more conflict with my other half’s family and honestly half the time I don’t think they reckon much to me as it is. I have a lot of different views, and they don’t take the time to get to know that or understand where I’m coming from. The other half has already said ‘I can just see where this is gonna lead, you saw what happened with my sister in law’ (that’s a whole other kettle of fish, similar issues - she didn’t have the same views, they didn’t like it) Also let me add, I have a video of her dancing and singing with my daughter to which she outright said ‘That best not go on Facebook! I look an idiot!’ and never has it once gone online cause I’ve respected her wishes.

Another quick edit: The reason I’m so protective over photos is my aunt when she was alive (she was a vindictive cow) would go through all the best photos of me that my mum and dad showed her and post them off to her friends across the world, so there’s complete frigging strangers to me out there on this planet walking round with my baby photos. So my protectiveness stems from there with what happened to me. I don’t want strangers getting hold of photos of my daughter.