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DD is 7. Me and her dad broke up just before she turned 3. We both have long term partners now, and his partner’s son is also 7, have known him since birth, and my daughter sees dad every weekend. Me and the new girl used to be friends before The BreakUp, things were really civil with us but for about 2 years now she and I don’t see each other or talk at all (she blocked all contact) I feel things are as civil as they can be, and I didn’t think there was any problem between us 2 families voicing our opinions on DD’s well-being (although it was voicing my opinion that got me blocked by the step mum..)

Fast forward to this Easter weekend, DD stays with Dad til Monday. She then tells my partners mum (whom we live with) that her dad has ‘told her off’ for what she eats at breakfast (with us mon-fri)

Baring in mind he had not spoke to us about it. Something that is not her control, and hello she’s 7??? If you have a problem with what our Daughter eats while she is with us, then speak to me? I don’t know if I’m completely flipping the switch (I always react wildly when it comes to him, he’s been a handful in the past) but to me it feels like my DD is being used as a weapon in this scenario, I have yet to speak to the dad to tell him how he’s not only made ME feel but our 7 year old (who thanks to dad has always been fussy eater) is now freaking out about not ‘being allowed’ to eat her favourite breakfast!

I guess at this point I don’t know how to approach her dad. Anytime we try and be nice and tiptoe around an issue to not try and cause issues, he ignores and avoids the subject, so I feel like I have to be firm, and show how pissed I am about it. I am at a loss with her dad and step mum, they have a 7 year old themselves, literally only 2 weeks makes him older than my Dd. I know they won’t be exactly the same to raise and that but I am so disappointed. It feels like my dd gets put at the back of the list to them a lot of the time and me and my partner would like to have some of the fun time (weekends). Her dad doesn’t see the daily grind of our household but he surely should understand to some extent?

All criticism and advice is welcome at this point. I’m fed up with that side of the family but want to do anything I can to remain civil for my Dd. I grew up with a part time dad and I’ll be f@cked if I let her dad walk in and out when he wants just the same.

Thanks for listening 👂