The deed

Okay, so serious question...

I have 2 kids ages 9 and 2 and well of course another one on the way. How in the hell do you ladies find time to do the deed with your hubby? Mine works third shift and I work first shift and while our oldest is at school he’s sleeping and by the time he crawls into bed our 2 year old is waking up for the day. (I stay home during the week and only work weekends, he works during the week and stays home on weekends.) Also, when she takes a nap it’s usually about the time I have to go and pick up our oldest.

He’s always bugging me to have us time but how can we when we literally have no time when the kids are both home?! I mean we’ve been creative in the past but we can’t get away together for more than like 5 mins without our oldest coming to look for us or our youngest freaking out because mommy isn’t in her sight. Soooo any ideas/tips would be helpful. I feel like my marriage is suffering because of the lack of sex. We have like no one I trust with watching the kids or the ones I do trust are not available to spend time with the kids so I’m with them all the time.