Constipation

Ugh this is so embarrassing, so im not anywhere near my period or anything so this has nothing to do with that. I can’t poop. I can, and my body’s telling me I need to, but it hurts so bad when I try and it’s just horrible. I usually don’t have a bowel movement often, usually about once or twice a week. Today will be a full day without going, even though i need to it just hurts. I’ve been drinking lots of water and doing everything I should but nothings helping. I read that not havin a bowel movement for three days is too long so does anyone have their own person tips to get rid of this? And I tried a stool softener a few days ago which helps me pass a small amount but didn’t resolve it, should i be taking more?