So recently I saw a discussion of a girl asking for estimates on how much a child’s birthday party should cost

Most people said between $100-500 per party depending on the ages

The price being a bit more for seemingly 5 year olds, 10 year olds, 13 year olds, and 16 year olds.

Someone had stated that she gives each child a $20 bill each birthday and they celebrate with cake.

She claimed it was because she was teaching each child the value of a dollar, but also because she has multiple children, she wanted it to be fair for all of them each year for each birthday.

So, for my Interpretation, for example, if they “splurged” on one child’s 13 birthday, they wouldn’t feel bad if they were in a tight spot for the other ones 13th birthday.

And I can definitely see where she is coming from.

My aunt has 6 kids, and her first had received a huge graduation party and has pretty much drained them from their savings for college and she has stated multiple times that is stressed she won’t be able to help the other 5 the way she has helped him. I don’t think my other cousins feel “less than” because of this, but I can see where it could cause tension between siblings.

Someone, else had responded by saying she had only chose to have 2 children because she didn’t feel it was fair for the children to be “restricted” on birthday gifts by only a $20 bill and claims she feels giving each child the same present each year would make it seem less special.

Which, although I don’t think it was polite to say, I could see that point too.

I think if you were to restrict the amount a present is for each child a year, maybe you could spend $10 on a more personalized gift and then give them a $10 bill if you were to teach them the value of the dollar.

But I think for a child who isn’t handed money, presents, toys, etc every day of the year, being handed a $20 bill once a year with cake and ice cream would still be considered a special day for them.

But all in all, I’m

Just curious on others insight

I, personally, feel I would be most comfortable with having a total of two or three children, and with this topic being brought up, it did make me think a bit more on the number of children I may want.

Growing up, there was a lot of sibling rivalry, but we also didn’t have the best upbringing

Like our parents are good people

But they didn’t have a stable relationship

My father passed when I was 18 months.

My oldest and I are step siblings and no longer talk.

My little brother was conceived out of the marriage and still thinks my moms ex husband is his dad.

And growing up (12+) I lived with my mom while my little brother lived the typical childhood with divorced parents.

So I never really knew exactly what it was really like to have siblings considering half of the time most of my life I was the only child. And because the family dynamic was so off, I shared family with my brothers, but I also had family of my own while they had family of their own.

Most friends I know who had the “typical” childhood are super close with their siblings and have a really close bond, which is what I would want for my children

But I also wouldn’t want to ruin that bond by creating a family dynamic where they also always felt they were competing with one another.