Getting back the spark

Y'all. Hubby and I used to have the best sex life. 100% comfortable with each other and ourselves, deep, intense, make your head spin sex. For 5 years

....and then I was pregnant. I had issues with my pregnancy and was told no sex for what ended up being a little over 6 months.

Fast forward to now, and its been a month since we've been given the all good post baby.

We can not get our "spark" back.

I know a lot of it is probably on my end, since i feel completely different since my son was born. No pain during sex or anything but I just can not seem to stop overthinking everything and relax enough to finish. I cant when I masturbate either. Yes it feels good and all but mannnnnnn I just want a damn orgasm before I lose my mind..