Well for all those who’ve seen my past posts about my toxic family, then my pregnancy post, here’s another new update...

A couple weeks ago my niece who lives with me, 18yo, came home and I had my boyfriend and 2 out of 3 of his boys over as well, his kids range between 8-12yo, the boys were laying down watching a movie downstairs while we were passed out upstairs. She comes home starts cussing and slamming doors all pissed off because they were there. Asked where the youngest was, when the boys said at home she would make comments like “one less brat I have to deal with” called them slobs, trailer trash all sorts. To kids!! When my boyfriend found out about it he was furious and his ex found out and wanted to handle it her way, which I did not blame her one bit! I was furious myself but was stuck in the middle as usual. So I told my niece that since we keep having problems and she doesn’t like my boyfriend and his kids and I didn’t like her boyfriend, that we shouldn’t have any guys over at the house period. She read my message and never responded but continued to have her cheating using boyfriend over at my house constantly.

Now this whole time I’ve been at my house a couple times, last night I decided to have my boyfriend and his kids come stay with me. Was a great evening, she was at work, I also had informed her earlier in the day that they were coming over so that way it wasn’t a surprise. She got an attitude and told me she didn’t care anymore and to enjoy my company. She told me she wouldn’t get home until midnight from work, so my boyfriend and I both set an alarm so we would be up to avoid any conflict at all. I fell asleep because I had to be to work early and being pregnant, I exhausted.

She gets out of work early, kids were laying down for bed and we were upstairs in bed but my boyfriend was awake. She comes in the apartment, starts slamming the doors again cussing towards the kids as usual, stomps upstairs goes into her room and slams the door and cranks her music, my boyfriend is watching through the crack in the door and when she comes out of her room, she flips us off and stomps downstairs. That’s when my boyfriends decides to slowly follow behind her to listen to what happens next and she goes off on these kids going on about how “this isn’t no god damn hotel, you don’t pay bills here! This is my house! I pay the bills! You guys are disgusting slobs!” And continues into the kitchen. That’s when he sits on the couch and continues to listen to her ramble on some more about how “she’s sick and tired of cleaning up after stupid ass kids and their stupid ass trailer trash dad” that’s when he stands up and confronts her. Goes full dad mode calls her out for being a bully tells her to shut up, the typical stuff any parent would say to someone being a bully to their child(ren). That’s when she begins screaming at him she chin checked him twice in the face with her elbows then runs outside, calls my mom and plays victim. Never tells my mom how she treated the kids, acts like he attacked her and so on. He comes upstairs and wakes me up, I’m trying to figure out what happened, I go call for her and she’s hiding outside on the phone, got nasty messages from my family, cops end up showing up, then while the cops are there, my boyfriend leaves so my niece can come get clothes and stuff because now it’s not safe for her to be at my house, my family shows up to help her pack and I’m looked at like I’m the dirt beneath them, that I allowed everything to happen and that I chose him over family.

How in the world would any of you go about dealing with this type of situation? I’m pregnant with his child, my family hates him, my niece is a bully to kids 8-12yo

Any advice please