It’s about my crush. Advice please🤲🏼
So basically we met in December online and talked for a month and a half. He said that he didn’t know what he wanted, but it was clear i liked him. We never left each other on open and flirted. We always listened to music together on Snapchat. Like we’d go 1,2,3 go and then start songs at the same time and our bitmojis would stay. It wasnt abt sexual stuff and he wasn’t in it for the nudes if that makes sense. Then he cut me off and everytime I tried to rekindle he’d be cold. Then eventually I texted him about it. He said he cut me off because i was too attached and he didn't want feelings involved. How we were was too relationship like and I agreed tbh. We’d send Goodmorning and goodnight texts, hearts and stuff. He’d always compliment me and call me cute.
This time around we were so much more
friendly and we didn’t flirt. The first 2 days we were talking I left him on read bc I was trying to take it slow and each time he snapped and joked about being annoyed abt being left on read. Then one day he told me to get on a site where u can watch stuff together and chat and we were on there for 2 hours for 2 days (it was his idea to get on there every time). The third time, we were on there for 7 hours idek how. Like deadass none stop 7 hours of watching stuff. And he talked about his family and personal stuff that I know he just wouldn’t share with everyone bc he’s very secretive and has major trust issues. He even showed songs and was like “I knew you’d like this” or “I heard this and thought you’d like it”.
But at the end of the 7 hr he basically said, "i dont wanna get u in ur feels but u're not attached to me or anything right? like u wouldn’t mind if i talked to someone else". Such a soft boy move lmao. But my heart dropped and i just said "i already assumed that u did”. He was describing his dream girl with blue eyes and blonde hair and I’m brunette w tan skin but tbh can’t wait to go tan some more. Im not phased by that and i think im cute and ik he knows it too. But basically he said how there's this girl always trying to talk to him and she's just his type. He talked about how looks aren't everything but then he said he never felt a connection like that with me and these were so out of nowhere. He said I’m really funny and cute just not his type. He said he might talk to her and i encouraged him but it killed me.
How can you say no connection after 7 hours.. after he said that, i said "i wouldnt wanna date u anyway bc i dont wanna do long distance" (which is a lie lmao) and he said "im looking to moving soon so that wouldn't be an issue but idk what state she's in" like damn. And the day after that he asked me to get on the site again for 2 hours.
Why would u talk to a girl you have 0 interest in for 7 hours. I don’t wanna sound conceited but he knows im cute. You can't talk for 7 hr if u dont click. Then at the end of the next day he texted her. He said he wouldn’t care if I talked to a guy. So I talked about a guy and he was like "damn u must have been talking to this dude for a while and u been telling me you weren't talking to nobody” and I said "i dont lie abt small things. what's the issue" and he said "there's no issue chill. i just got confused".
Then he was abt to go on vacation and I just wanted him to know how I felt bc I didn’t want him to get close to the other girl. So I texted: “idk what im expecting to get by saying this but unlike all the other girls who u say dm u all the time, i dont know much about u but i like u for who u are. And it sucks that im risking our friendship by saying this but thinking of u with someone else hurts”. And i was expecting to be dropped tbh but he said “No i havent been talking cause i’ve been busy bc of my vacation kind of. We’re gonna talk like normal again after this I promise. It’s on me”.
While he was on vacation and I kinda flirted w him and ended it by saying we were friends and that he was talking to that girl and that I was talking to that guy. Like dam that hurt LMAO. We just gradually got cold. I ended up texting him abt it. He freaked out and said that I was too clingy and that he couldn’t deal with me asking like crazy why we were cold when we didn’t talk for a day. But ok if we talk everyday and don’t for a day that’s kinda major. Anyway I basically said “whatever dude” and he said “okay” and I left him on read for 2 weeks until on my bday he texted me which I was really surprised about tbh. And I made an inside joke and he replied but I left him on read. Then around 2 hours later I check my phone and there’s a text from him. It’s was a long paragraph about a girl he met OnLiNe which is so lame tbh LMFAOO bc it makes me feel less special.
Anyway so it goes: “Bro I’m not even kidding, I started talking to this random girl, she is much fucking weirder than you but it’s so weird how much you guys are alike it scares me I legit thought I was being set up. She’s so freaky”
And I didn’t wanna sound salty or jealous bc that’s not cute so I gave a friendly answer. Then he said other things abt her and where she’s from and I said “that’s nice” and he left it on read. Like what am I supposed to say to that? Awweesommee!! LMFAOO like aight. Why you telling me all this.. on my bday.
Then the next day I snapped him a pic from a party w a caption and he left it on read🤡 then the next day he sends me this LONG paragraph abt how he had to block that girl bc she was cray cray and weird, which I replied to with “bitches be crazy”. Tbh I’m so proud of how dry I was bc I love talking to him. He replied w “Ik” and I left it on read. Then I posted smthn on my story that night and he saw it. The next mid-day he swiped up on my story and commented. So way after he saw it. We talked and he talked abt how he’s not gonna get w that girl (so not blocked after all huh. I wonder what happened to that blonde girl). And he was telling me what he wants and expects in a relationship. And he knew I was talking to a guy. He asked me to go on watch2gether and we did, then he said he wanted to call me on Sc sometime as friends and I said maybe one day. At one point he said how some girls can’t talk at all and how he’s glad I’m not like that and that I can keep up a convo. But he was like “it’s not a compliment btw just an observation😂”. Isn’t this such a 12 year old thing to say LMAO. We talked for about 2 weeks. I’d leave him on read for up to 17 hours just bc I didn’t push convos like I used to. On that 7 hour convo he had mentioned how he loves to chase girls and I legit have been in the cage since day 1.
Then about a week ago he left me on read and didn’t snap for like 2 days. Then I forwarded him a story and he deadass left me on read. Then I snapped him like 2 days later again and we talked. Once I snap we tend to talk until he goes to bed and next day doesn’t snap me kinda deal. Idk. I wish he was actually interested. I’m kinda hoping I can get him I interested again. He sends me selfies and will talk about how he’s cute (in a joking way but Ik he wants me to find him cute).
Today I snapped him and he replied and after talking for a while he asked to get on the site and we were on there for 2 hours. He is still talking to that “crazy” girl but it’s basically for the nudes. It just makes me feel like im a bro to him even tho he almost never says bro now.
Today after we got off the site he immediately texted me on sc and we sent memes back and forth. I just feel like Ik for a fact I’m gonna wake up and see that he left my text on seen and even if he doesn’t idk if he is interested at all in me or if I’m being just played. I would really appreciate advice. I have no clue as to what to do. Sorry this was SO long.
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