After 8 years of dealing with military medical obgyns, because where we were stationed didn't have fertility facilities, we recently moved back to mainland North America and my obgyn gave me the go to seek out fertility specialist. I asked her after 9 years of ttc, 3 unsuccessful founds of Letrozol, multiple early miscarriages, and 0 reasons why I can't carry she said she's probably thinking I have bad quality eggs along with a 12 million sperm count, things aren't in our favor.

I'm looking up facilities currently for <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> and ICSI.

°What's some pointers for a good facility in your opinion I should look out for?

I have mixed feelings because in a way it's... Ive always been healthy, eaten right, not on drugs or meds, don't drink alcohol much, take vitamins, not crazy overweight and I'm the sister who can't have kids. I say that because my other sisters with "surprise kids" always were 100+ lbs over weight, fast food diets, and awful hormone problems growing up. I always laugh at the ironic situation. My sisters and I are close and I don't hold anything against them-theyre fantastic mom's. We just are kinda dumbfounded I'm the one with problems. They've both offered their eggs and to be surrogates if needs be. There's no animosity with us and I'm so lucky to have wonderful sisters like them.

I also recently talked to the head obgyn at this new base (who gave me the go to see a specialist) and she said some couples are devistated and others are like, "meh, whatever. Let's do this" and just start <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">ivf</a> like it's a new blouse.

I wish I could get over this shock and be the "meh" person.

If you know how I'm feeling, can you please give me your experiences in a good direction to go, is it probably best to seek mental health through this process, what are red flags for doctors and facilities you've seen, how did your significant other deal?

Thank you!