How can I be more sexy and confident?

Ugh... tears are coming to my eyes just writing these words..

I’ve watched so many videos, read so many articles, but I still can’t find it in me! I can’t be confident...

I know that there’s someone who will consider me sexy, even with my 30 pounds extra weight, but I just don’t know how to be sexy for the man I love!!!

My boyfriend of 4 years and I have recently been struggling in bed. It seems like he doesn’t find me that sexy, once I gained some weight. Although he tells me everytime that I’m beautiful, nice, sweet and that he loves me, and that my extra weight is not a subject of a fight, not a reason to break up, and that he will in no way leave me because of it and that he loves me the way I am.

But he can’t seem to get a boner like he used to. I can’t seem to attract him, whatever I do and I lost my confidence and now it’s making it even worse that I don’t look or don’t feel confident.

We’ve talked about it many times!! He says that sometimes he’s not in the mood, sometimes he’s tired, and sometimes I’m not sexy enough to turn him on. AND THAT KILLS ME!!

He’s the nicest person I know, he’s sweet and caring. He kisses me, hugs me passionately, he loves spending time with me and loves getting into bed with me..

But what can I do??? How to turn this situation aroun

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I’m 80kgs (180 pounds?!) and 162 cm (5’4)