Was I wrong?

A woman on my Facebook, has stage 4 lung cancer which has now spread. I know this woman personally, although we live in the same county, until afew weeks ago I had not seen her in 5 years.

Since being diagnosed with cancer I started talking to her more on Facebook. At one point she texts me saying she has had GI issues the past 3 days and can't stop running to the restroom, she sent her adult son ( who is disabled) to CVS to get her depends the day before, but he got confused and flustered and came home with a protective sheet instead. So, she was at this point sitting there wrapped in a towel with no clean clothes because she didnt have the energy to do wash. And her son sleeps til 3pm. So, I said hold on, I will help you out. I use a giftcard I had, bought her a pair of sweatpants and went to CVS and got her depends. I get to her apartment and the entire place wreaks of cigarette smoke. ( both are smokers). I show her what I got her, and help her open the package. Her son helps her get to the restroom, she puts everything on and comes back out and lays down. I ask her if she wants me to call 911 ( she looked like hell, and I figured since shes been having GI issues she is probably dehydrated) her son seems stressed so, i talk to him as the medics are talking to her, they end up taking her to the hospital. I told her son, i can't stay but here is my number if you need me.

He chose not to go since it would set him off.

Anyway she tells me afew hours later shes now home, she feels better turns out she was taking too much laxative ( shes on pain meds for the cancer) hence the severe GI issues.

So. A bit passed she then tells me they are going to try radiation. She couldn't withstand that, she thinks they broke her nose, clicking the mask on and she had a panic attack within the first 15 minutes and had to stop. She was then diagnosed with heart failure. She said to me she does not want to die. She did not plan for any of this and doesnt know what to do and asked me what I would do if I were her. I was honest and told her, do what you can to be comfortable. Regardless of the outcome you want comfort as anyone would. That is what I would do.

She contacts me 2 days later saying her son wanted to know if he could borrow $20 for tobacco and papers for cigarettes since he is " dangerously low". And he doesnt get his disability check til June 1st. I said I'm sorry, I dont have it. I have enough to cover my Bill's and food.

She said it's ok she found a remedy, sorry for asking.

Her son texts me today, his mother is now at the hospital. He said he the cancer is incurable, they can't help her.

Now, regardless of all this, do you think I was wrong to say no on the money for cigarettes?

I mean, I feel bad shes dying of cancer.

But she got it from smoking for DECADES.

I just feel like they were trying to take advantage of my generosity at this point.

The only reason I stepped in, in the first place is because the people that helped them get the apartment they got were not able to help them that day.

Edit: The entire reason she reached out to me in the first place is because she felt, that I would understand ( at least in the realm of having serious health issues) I was on dialysis for 4 years and by year 4 I was starting to prepare for death since I had waited 6 years for my transplant and dialysis/ organ was wearing on me , I was on the max time I could dialize and was falling apart still. BUT organ failure is not stage 4 cancer.

It wasn't so much a friendship as much as she was looking for someone to talk to. And I was there, but , to ask for cigs? Come on.. I know she was still smoking, shed light up while on the phone if David wanted them, he could have asked. I feel the cigs were for both of them

She figured fuck it, I'm dying anyway, and her adult so. Has such emotional issues he can't deal well. He was in and out of institutions as a kid..

I dont feel I should pay for someone's cigarettes. I kinda found it rude to ask.