Opening up about sexual assault

I finally after 6 years opened up to my husband about my father and one of my uncle’s friends molesting me as well as my first boyfriend raping me; yes I know it seems like a lot but I was only 8-14 years old at the time, I never opened up to anyone because I feel like somehow I was asking for those things to happen to me. I’ve moved past it for the most part and I am comfortable sexually but I feel scared that me finally opening up will make my husband treat me differently in the bedroom; I happen to like very rough dominant sex. Does anyone have any tips to make sure it doesn’t happen and to show my husband that I’m okay just like before