How to become independent with a boyfriend?

Hey guys,

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and have a two year old daughter and I’m 8 months pregnant.

We’ve been going through some rough patches and he just said that he thinks that I’m ‘mean’, make big deals out of small things, and constantly put him in the spotlight due to my trust issues.

I’ve taken all this in consideration and although he has his own issues, I’ve decided it would be best to become more independent in this relationship to help ease some of these things that he thinks is affecting the relationship.

So what can I do?

I do rely on him a lot. I don’t have many friends and I don’t have any family other than my kids. And when I talk about having friends it’s just very casual. I don’t talk about my relationship and just really listen to them gossip.

He’s kinda my sound bored for everything and I’m just not sure how to switch that up because I have nobody.

I’m trying to reach out to some of my friends in the community and start plans with them on the weekends so he’s alone and can do his own thing.

I’ve also stopped texting him until he text me. He thinks that some things that I say over text are mean which I never mean to be mean. Things just come across that way because I’m not good at talking/spelling. So texting him less will really help dissolve some of that frustration and confusion.

I’m hoping by giving him personal space will create a boundary with trust by showing him that I do trust him and it could also help us value the time we have together more.