Shaving tips and help

Ever since I was about 22, I’ve gotten horrible razor burn and ingrown hairs and my hair grows back really fast, and all this stuff that makes me super self conscious about my body. Mostly my thighs and bikini area.

Does anyone have any idea on how to stop it? Now that I have to get back out into the dating world and now that it’s summer, I hate this and wanna cry.

I’ve tried exfoliating and shave shave creams and it doesn’t help me.

Please also no rude comments. I’m already insecure about it...

Thank you