Words of support? (Long post)

Question

I'm feeling so upset.
I always pictured motherhood to be this...always beautiful thing. I always pictured myself as the softspoken mother who made big family meals and took the kids to do fun things and made amazing memories.
I feel let down. I know how motherhood truly is now that i have 2 kids. But today I'm feeling especially let down. 
I woke up my son (2) and got nothing but attitude and yelling at me. We go out the door to work. I'm the 2yr old teacher at the daycare so i get to spend the whole day with my toddler but i don't get to see my 7month old for the whole 10hour shift. It's so hard.
Then we get home and i make a full family meal. Husband doesnt want it and makes something different and toddler doesn't touch it. 
Move on to bedtime and it takes my toddler 2 hours to get to bed. Leaving me 20 minutes to myself before i go to bed. Which i spent fussing with my husband over trivial matters. 
Im literally left in tears thinking where's the beauty in this? When does the "happy family" start? Why isn't it as easy for me as it is for (insert name of person i envy.) I love my kids and my husband but what i pictured motherhood being...it wasn't this.

Answer

I think motherhood has good bad ugly and beautiful moments. We all want what appears to be “happiness” that we see posted in others social media but let’s be real 90% of people don’t post or publicize their ugly moments so we are left with an image that is far from real. You’re going to have frustrating nights, fights with your husband and kids but then think about the good times that do come around. Lazy sundays, family walks, vacations. Those are the moments to cherish. You’re not alone and I bet you’re doing a great job.

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A lot of women hide these parts of motherhood. I have a 2 year old and an 8 week old and the “happy picture perfect” moments are few and far in between. I have a lot of breakdowns and a lot of failed moments too. I don’t broadcast them. A lot of people don’t. Some days I have 2 kids having a blowout at the same time, or they’re both crying and demanding every oz of energy I have. But when people ask me, how’s it been adjusting to two? I just say...it’s an adjustment but we’re making it. But in my head I’m like “barely”. That’s ok. My 2 year old wouldn’t eat the cheese quesadilla I made him tonight even though I went out of my way to make it. My 8 week old protested every attempt of me trying to calm her and instead she worked herself up so much that she projectile vomited all of her milk onto our bed. Motherhood is very hard but rewarding. Don’t be so hard on yourself. None of what happens is your fault. It’s just like this sometimes and sometimes it hits you all in one week or one month but every now and then you’ll get a good day to remind you of why you’re doing this and it all pays off. It’s temporary.

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I have a daughter who just turned two and a son who just turned 6 months and I feel exactly the same a lot of the time. My daughter hit the 2 year sleep regression as we transitioned our son into his own room and I am getting less sleep now than I did when I had a newborn because she is constantly waking him. I don’t even get time to speak to my husband because I’m so exhausted and just try to sleep as soon as we have them both asleep (while I can.)
It won’t last. It can’t. It won’t always be this way. That’s what I keep telling myself. Everything in life is a phase. Just waiting to move into a better one. You are definitely not alone. It will be worth it.

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I have a 2 year old and a 3 week old. I literally broke down crying because my 2 year old wont listen to me. And my 3 week old doesn't latch good so he gets a lot of air and is super fussy and spits up a ton. I was at my wits end with both of them. Then I go outside in the evening with my hubby and my 2 year old and our sprinklers came on with my boy right in the middle of the yard! my 2 year old is running through the sprinklers fully clothed yelling "THIS IS SO MUCH FUN!" It was the sweetest, cutest unplanned thing ever. My husband and I sat on our deck, smiling and laughing.
Those are the moments to cherish and I certainly did. It's not always going to be happy times and that's ok. As long as you know when to cherish the happy times when they do come. And hang in there mama. Kids dont eat, they get everything dirty, dont listen and act unappreciative, but in the end they will appreciate you and all you've done for them.

Words of support? (Long post)

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