Commitment issues or am I over reacting?

I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or not, my boyfriend of over 2 years seems to cancel quite often on things I had planned for us. I'll ask him if he wants to do something, he'll get pumped up and then I'll get excited too and I'll take off planning and he'll push things off. We dont live together, we're young and just graduated from high school, but we both come from difficult families and abusive relationships in the past. We love one another, and I'd do anything for him, but I dont feel like he feels the same. He works every week day and I only see him on the weekends, I dont bother him when he's at work and respect the fact that he's a grown man now and that he needs to figure himself out and have some space. We still talk every day and when we're together we get along great. He doesnt like my family, and I dont blame him. I'm around his constantly though and they're old fashioned and most are sexist and homophobic which bothers me because I'm a non-straight female. I engage with the family almost every time I see him. I lie about my sexuality and religious standpoint and go along with the jokes about my gender and the insensitive comments about my disability (I'm a type one diabetic). I go truck shopping and I go to races and go fishing and swimming and go to family events and public places where he wanders off and I always do my best to have a good time and to fit in by myself. He doesnt do the same for me. I go along with his plans and do whatever he wants without much fuss. He took 3 weeks to ask me out, it was cute at the time but I even almost gave up on us then. We planned to move across country to live together with his dad after we graduated, I even only applied to colleges there, and he never asked his dad or even mentioned being interested in moving out there to any of his family when I had my bags half packed. He finally cracked and told me after I badgered him for weeks about asking. This time, we planned a camping trip. He canceled tonight, saying he wanted to go but was too nervous to which I understand, but thinking back on things, I'm not sure if this is okay any more. I put up with a lot, punch after punch with him. He's not by any means unhelpful, he's the one person who's helped me through some not so great situations even when he was struggling himself. I'm worried that he's going to do this again when it's time to move in together. He'll get too nervous and push it off. I dont know what to do, I dont feel like leaving is really an option because of the amount of love and chemistry we have. I cant do counseling with him, but I've been through a lot of it myself and know how basic psychology and couples therapy works. I'm worried and concerned for our future, and I'm ready to talk to him about it but I don't want to hurt his feelings. I dont know what to do at this point, and any advice would be welcome. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting because it's late or if this is something I should really be worried about.

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