Why dose it fucking matter so much if my husband and I are actually married thrue the court or not. We had a ceremony last year. We said our vows and put rings on each other. At a church thing in utha. Just leave it I plan an taking his last name anyway. The baby is going to have his last name. My last name is getting just the initial. But my mother in law is like you guys are getting married before the baby comes right? Have you set the date? I thought you guys were actually married. Omg it is just so annoying. Because In our eyes we are married thrue a church neither belong to (the church of lader day saints) but we are married thrue them. Why dose the court have to be involved in everything. I dont want to go near a court rn because my mom might be going to jail and it stresses me out I am trying not to stress out so I am trying to limit the amount of reminders of that. And I have been in that weird labor where it's not active or full blown yet but that can change anyday now. And my inlaws said that my son the one calling all the shots lately is not allowed to come out this weekend they told me to cross my legs. I am over here like if I go into full blown labor I am not going to sit at home and let you guys finish the trip your going on. They miss it they miss it. Plus if in do go into full blown labor I dont have to kick anyone out I only want my husband and I an the delivery room. And they might just add to the stress. Dont get me wrong I love them but they are so overwhelming sometimes.