Did anyone else change their minds about kids once they had them?

Question

I’m struggling. I really want to have my own children and I have for a while, but at the same time, I don’t like kids. I’ve been around kids and they all make me uncomfortable, I have a weird thing about kids hugging me and being affectionate towards me. But if I have my own children, will this change? I don’t want to jump into parenthood with my partner if I’m going to have this feeling towards kids forever. Will this change if I have my own babies?

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There is something about your own children that makes you feel different. I was kind of in the same place. I felt odd around kids, not knowing how to play and interact. But I really wanted my own. My husband and I had our daughter just over a year ago, and my life was forever changed. I love her so much and I enjoy playing with her and taking care of her. She's also helped grow me in my indifference toward other children. When we go to our friends' house, I don't mind playing with their son who's 2 years old. I'm not in love with children, but my daughter has definitely grown my love for them. And I especially love my daughter more than anything. More than I ever thought I could.

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I don't really like other people's kids but I love mine! Lol

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I was exactly the same! I felt I had no maternal instinct and wasn’t interested in other people’s kids. I wasn’t fussed about having a child but then my little lad arrived 17 months ago and he is literally my absolute everything! Since having him as well I’m much better around other peoples children and dont feel as uncomfortable around them as I used to.

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Your own kid will be very different than other people’s kids. But you still might not like motherhood. It’s wise of you to spend time searching yourself if this is something you want to do because it will change you me life (hard stuff and amazing stuff) and there’s no going back.

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I dont like kids. I dont understand people who are dying to hold someone's baby. But I love my 2 kids. Although I admit my 3 month old was not really planned and very difficult and we are struggling. But I still love her.

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That’s how I feel! I’m not the one to be like “omg let me hold your baby” and sometimes I feel awkward around kids as far as having conversations or playing with them. I hope this changes when we have our daughter in 3 months 😅

Did anyone else change their minds about kids once they had them?

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