Am I being unreasonable?

Aashlyn • Step Mother to a Princess💕Baby on the way! 🥰Dog Mom 🐾

Okay so my fiancé has been going through a custody battle for about 6 months over his 3 year old. It was a rough time, his ex was extremely bitter about him and I and used their daughter as a tool in trying to hurt him.

I don’t agree that was right. In fact I think it’s probably the worst thing another parent can do to the other who is trying to be in their child’s life.

However within the last few months they had finally came to an agreement as far as custody and child support and we have her constantly! Which is fantastic!

Here’s my thing though.... he gives her whatever she wants because he wants her to like him more than her mother... I mean literally anything.... here’s a few things that have bothered me with it..

I caught him letting her eat chocolate ice cream FOR DINNER at 9pm one night after my mother had cooked everyone dinner and when I asked him why he got a rude tone with me and said “Well she told me she’s not hungry and I’m not either so I’m not going to make her eat” and I told him that he’s a grown man and she’s 3, she needs to be eating dinner. That if she was hungry enough for ice cream she was hungry enough to eat a real dinner, that she should finish her ice cream after that. I don’t like telling him how to parent.. because I know he constantly has people in his ear but it gets difficult sometimes when he lets her do whatever. Another issue is that We’re not really in too great of a place financially right now as we’re expecting another baby (that he himself hasn’t spent a dollar on yet), our home we were living in got sold and we had to move into a small guest space at my parents, our bills are piling up faster than we can pay them and he keeps buying her toys EVERY SINGLE TIME they go to the store and that’s not an exaggeration, in the past two weeks id say he’s spent over $150 on frivolous toys that she touches once and forgets about and I just feel like we could use some of that money for our bills or things we all genuinely need. I’m okay with a little cheap toy every now and then but to buy her them constantly when we genuinely can’t afford it is frustrating. He literally doesn’t know how to tell her no. Over anything at all and if he does she’ll just bug him and bug him until he gets frustrated and gives in to her and she does it because she knows she can get her way. He doesn’t discipline her whatsoever and because of it she will blatantly disobey me or him and he just lets her continue doing whatever even if he’s said no.

I’m just really needing advice on how to address these things with him without it seeming like I’m just being a bitch, Because I’m genuinely not but if we don’t address it now its just going to get worse and I’m afraid of it putting a strain on us all.

Please no rude comments. I really just need some helpful advice from one mother to another.

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