My husband, keeps asking me "what the things are that stick out of my vagina" and "why is it like that ". Like I'm getting so uncomfortable is he for real. His almost 30 yrs old I believe I'm his first (We married when he was 22). I get so shy still till now and I tell him that's normal. However I have completely stopped letting him go down on me because I know he prob finds my vagina looking retarded + he doesn't really push to go down anyways. I'm so uncomfortable. My husband is a perfectionist. I don't know if he watched porn and expects a vagina with minimal labia minora. Mind you I only have one side that sticks out more then the other, my other side is small. I just want to be confident and now the only way I feel I can is by getting it reduced through surgery. I won't do this only for him but also for myself and my comfort.

How can I build more confidence in that matter if I decide not to go with the procedure, Please enlighten me.