*If you are sensitively religious in nature, scroll along and don't read*

-No, seriously, this will probably be triggering in some fashion, to some people.

So i know religious people mean well when they say things such as "I'll pray for you" and "put it in God's hands", especially when it comes to TTC.

For an atheist as myself, however, those sayings are one of the most irritating and insulting things to say to us. To put it into perspective a little, imagine of a random stranger said to you "I'm sorry you are having issues ttc, but i will think about it and do nothing". That isn't to be insulting, its just giving another point of view.

Something else people say, when babies are born, is "God did an amazing job" or something to that variation. Another really insulting thing to say to atheists. It's not giving any credit to the mother who just practically died trying to birth that baby, and the hard working doctors and nurses who helped bring the baby into the world.

When there is a miscarriage or AF showed up or something that the person ttc would be devastated about, I have heard "it's part of God's plan". Even though that person meant well by it, you have no idea how badly that (non-religious) person you said it to wants to punch you in the face.

Coming from an atheist, we don't want to SUPPRESS your freedom of religion or anything radical like that. That would be nonsense. We simply want you to take the time to say something neutral.

"Congratulations! Your baby is wonderful! I'm glad everything went smoothly"

"I'm sorry to hear about your loss."

"I'm sorry AF showed her ugly face. Next month for sure!"

LAST thing, i do realize people say these things already. I get that. But there are many who don't and have to bring their religion into pretty much anything they say. I see it all the time. Again, its not about suppressing anything, its being mindful of the stranger you are talking to. That person may not share your belief and you make them upset or uncomfortable when you bring "god" into it.

**Edit** Saying "why are you upset that someone mentions god when you don't believe in him?" Is a cop-out question. Clearly if that's the question that popped in your head when you read this, you didn't READ it all. That's not what this is even about. If you would put yourself in an atheist's shoes (UNBIASEDLY) you would step back and realize that those things aren't ideal to say to someone. Not everyone knows who has a religion or not, which is why i provided some NEUTRAL sayings to say to people, no matter what their beliefs are.

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