Long distance relationship and marriage

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years and during this time has been long distance. At this point I’m totally tired of the distance and I do want us to get marry. I have talked to him and we have our plans set up and stuff or it looks like we do... however every time we talk about it he gets anxious and I don’t really know if he actually wants the same things I want and this whole situation makes me depressed cause I feel I’m just wasting my time. He says that we will be ready to get marry when we do have things figure out... but nobody has their life figured out so I see this as just excuses. Any advice? Or just wanna talk I’m really depressed. 🥺💕