Is he trying to get me secretly pregnant?

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My husband wanted me off birth control so I stopped using it. He bought condoms for protection but he doesn’t use them. My period ended on cycle day 5 and he finished inside me on cycle day 9 and 10. My cycle length before birth control was 28-30 days I think. And when we ttc our 1st baby I ovulated on days 14,15, and 17 according to opk. How likely is it that I could conceive? He says he needs to get a vasectomy and doesn’t really want more children rn Why is he being reckless? Do you think he does secretly want more children?

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Are you trying to get pregnant? Because from the sounds of this you both are being reckless. Sounds like you just need to talk to him.

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It wouldn’t be secretly if you knowingly engage in unprotected sex now would it? He doesn’t want you on birth control, he doesn’t use the condoms and he also doesn’t want another child. You’re both being foolish and irresponsible. Please take charge of your body

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That’s not something you guess about. You guys need to talk.

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You’re both incredibly reckless smh

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If you know he doesn't want more children why are you allowing him to have unprotected sex with you?
A guy talking about having a vasectomy is not a guy wanting more children.
Last I looked women are able to take charge of their own fertility and get on birth control - in order to avoid an accidental pregnancy I'd suggest you do that to ensure there isn't a pregnancy until you are both on the same page about having another child.
It's irresponsible of you to let this continue knowing he doesn't want more children

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Well it doesn’t really sound secret since you chose to go off bc and you chose to let him have sex with you without a condom. 
You both know unprotected sex leads to babies but youre both doing it. 
Sounds like y’all need to talk and confirm you’re on the same page with having another baby.

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Why not ask him ? That’s irresponsible on both parts if he says he doesn’t want to have kids no more and is doing this and you knowing you can get pregnant . I would have a talk with him and if you guys are both really done then get back on birth control or he needs to get his vasectomy , if he changed his mind he should be honest so there won’t be a surprise later on and he’s upset about it .

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Doesn’t sound like you’re consenting to this... I agree with the commenters. You’re both being reckless. If you don’t want kids, you’re being irresponsible by allowing him to make decisions for YOU.

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Why did he ask you to get off birth control? The conversation should have happened right then. Better have that conversation now and not guess!

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A) you can secretly get pregnant. He could be secretly trying to get you pregnant, but that wouldn’t look like you having sex knowingly unprotected. 
B) you can’t ovulate 3 times in one month. If you got positive OPKs for days 14, 15 tested the 16th got a negative one and then also a positive the 17th your ovulation date was actually the 16th. OPKs detect the hormone LH. It spikes BEFORE ovulation and indicated ovulation will occur in 12-48 hours... typically 24. When the hormone dips back down is when the egg is actually released. 
C) you two are being completely immature and irresponsible. Have a conversation about your life and goals for your family and make a decision. Use protection until both of you are on the same page. Sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants and wants to be able to have some flexibility with fertility. Also, having sex without condoms feels BETTER, when in the moment many people are focused on gratification vs. potential consequences. He probably doesn’t want a kid but wants to actually enjoy sex. I recommend getting the paragard IUD, you can have spontaneous sex and not worry about pregnancy. You can remove it and fertility immediately returns, which isn’t the case with hormonal BC. Also when placed it can be used as EC within 5 days of unprotected sex.

Is he trying to get me secretly pregnant?

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