He called me a whore

Around Easter last year I met this guy (Jake) and he was fun and hilarious and since we had met we talked every day all the time. We even went on a few dates and they were fun, awkward but fun. I really thought I could date him and I told him this but I also told him that I wasn’t sure and wanted to continue as we were during the summer so I wouldn’t start some relationship that I’m not ready for. He doesn’t deserve a relationship with someone who can’t be there for him.

Then during the summer I met a really hot guy and had a crush on him. This was a RED FLAG, for me. I knew that if this happened now then there was no way I could be a good girlfriend to him and tried to tell him gently that I don’t think we should date. He seemed to understand, asked if we could still be friends and took some time for himself to process it. He understood me, right?

Wrong.

In August, we are friends and he invites me to his birthday party. Im apprehensive that he wants me to meet his friends when I had turned him down but he says I’m one of his closest friends so he wants me to come. I go and it’s fun, I meet his friends and we all get along. When we were alone I reaffirmed that I don’t think I could be in a healthy relationship and thought he deserved better.

Then he confronts me and tells me to be harsh as to why I won’t date him. So I say it again, for the third time.

I start talking to his friend (Matt) and we end up flirting it’s fun and it’s casual and mostly friendly rather than flirty in any case. And Jake apparently sees my conversation and starts to essentially slut shame me by asking if all I want is the *pornographic image of thanos* because apparently the pictures I’ve sent Matt are suggestive (which they aren’t by most standards) and prove that I like his friend more than I’ve ever liked him .

He explains his lashing out as his reaction to being dumped, we had never dated.

Then I get more of this

To be clear, I dumped him on June way before I met his friend. I know it isn’t the best move to flirt with his friend but still. I saved the screenshots before blocking him to send to another of his friends who’s unbiased opinion even said I should block him