Balance

My husband works so hard 4-5 days a week. He works 12 hour shifts and drives a hour each way. So during the week I make sure the small amount of time he has he can spend it bonding with our 3 month old. I am a stay at home mom and I take care of everything from appointments, home, food, vehicles.

This is where I am getting burnt out. On weekends we just don't see eye to eye. I am exhausted I need sleep. I am the last one down first one up and am pumping and doing feedings solo every night.

He wants to spend his weekends doing projects. Playing golf. Seeing friends. Also he spends 1 day a weekend just helping his elderly parents.

I sound horrible but this man makes no time for us on weekends. I am exhausted too. I feel horrible every time I bring it up. His parents are not wanting to downsize their home. His siblings are elderly as well so they don't help out. So it's always my husband to the rescue.

We just purchased a 1st home together this year and had a baby. There is a shift in responsibilities and his parents are not budging on backing off. His dad was so upset we even bought a home he said and I quote "you will only have to drive further to help me and do my house work." Not even understanding how demanding he can be.

I have so much resentment to all of this. There is only so much time. If I bring this up to my husband for the 100th time he just gets angry with me. I know he works so hard for us but why do get what's left after he has his fun and his parents to do list. I have my own honey to do list.

We need more balance and I need his parents to understand he is being neglectful at home. We have been having the same dispute for 8 years.