Long rant I apologise now😞

Our March baby girl is 23 weeks and the most amazing little girl, she has such a personality already and is so cheeky. Where we live if you’re not married the father doesn’t get any paternity leave. I breastfeed her exclusively and she won’t take a dummy or a bottle no matter how much I try. Because of this obviously Dad has never had to feed her, so no night feeds ever. Even when she was a newborn and started to cry he wouldn’t get out of bed to try and calm her before I fed her. My maternity leave was up at 16 weeks but I decided to not return to work. We don’t get any benefits so rely solely on one wage. I appreciate the hours my SO does to provide for us, 6 days a week and between 8-14 hours a day, it’s very tiring and not to mention 8 months of the year it’s around 30-40 degrees here. I feel awful saying it so please correct me if you think I’m being out of line but he is a rubbish Dad. He sleeps on the sofa so he can have a lay in and not be disturbed(I don’t mind this as our little girl sleeps very well) he is constantly on his phone playing games, even when watching our daughter. I have to ask him to do things like change her nappy or clothes and he’ll say no. I give her to him so I can do something and he’ll be straight behind me waiting to give her back. I’ll go to the toilet and if I’m in there a while(sometimes just for a break) he will call after me to hurry up. We also argue a lot, and when we do he will refuse even more to take her and won’t even talk to her! I am with her 24/7 and hardly ever get a break and he shouts at me that I’m not doing enough around the house or I’m lazy. I’m going crazy I’m getting so anxious and stressed because I am struggling to cope on my own. Am I being selfish and really he is a good dad or is he down right lazy and a rubbish father,?