I don’t know how to break up with my boyfriend

I know you ladies would tell me to just do it straight up but listen real quick. I care about him, a lot. But the feelings aren’t romantic anymore, but he’s oh so in love with me. I suspect that he’s grown dependent on me tho, he’s the annoying clingy and hovers. But he’s not passionate about me ya know? I am very well aware that he has depression and anxiety just like I do, but it also makes me feel trapped into our relationship. It’s tearing me apart, I don’t know what to do. I know it’s unrealistic but I don’t want to hurt him. He’s a good guy and honestly deserves someone who actually romantically loves him. He deserves better. But idk what to do bc I need to think about myself as well.