Am I the asshole? -Babyshower invite list

So my mom is throwing a baby shower for me soon as my baby is due in November. A bit about me- i have about 4 friends that are girls and most the rest are guys who are my best friend gamer nerds🥰 My husband is also my absolute rock in my life. I have severe anxiety to the point where I take Xanax but haven’t been able to take any because I’m growing a human🤰🏽 My mom is very old school and weird when it comes to guys. She doesn’t even allow herself to have men other than her family as friends on Facebook. The only one is my dad. She always thought I was odd and trying to get boys attention growing up because they just happened to be who I’m more comfortable with. Anyways, the issue now is, she’s throwing my baby shower but no men allowed. Not even my husband is allowed. Just “ladies”. I’m fucking heart broken because I know she’s going to invite family I don’t even like, friends of hers that don’t even know me, and my actual friends and husband are not allowed to be at a celebration about me and my baby. I begged her to change her mind but she still refuses. She’s so stuck in her old fashioned mind that nothing can change her mind and now I don’t even think i want to attend my own baby shower.😓 Am I ungrateful? Should I just go, sit there and smile and pretend to be happy for a whole day when I’m really dying inside?

EDIT- Thank you to everyone for the advice, I truly deeply appreciate it. A lot of it was hard to read but I needed to hear it. I basically broke down crying with my mom and told her exactly how I felt and how I was panicking about it. I also showed her a few of y’alls replies and she kind of took a step back and said she didn’t realize I was so hurt and distraught by the situation. She just thought I was being stubborn or that my husband was being jealous when that is far from his character. She didn’t apologize really but she doesn’t do that😅 She said I now have total control over the invite list and party games☺️ She wouldn’t let me choose food and decor but that’s okay if it makes her happy🥰 I’m just glad I get to have a baby shower with people we really love and want around our baby girl when she’s born.

Also to the people who said just let her throw me a shower bc more gifts, who cares who they’re from?... We don’t want people thinking they have a right to see her when she’s born just because they bought a gift. There’s few people in my family I actually WANT around my kids and the people my mother was going to invite are entitled and rude and are just horrible people in general. I’d rather have a small cheap gift from someone who actually cares than a big expensive gift from someone who just wants to see the new baby in the family and doesn’t even care to remember my husband’s name. Personally I’m very happy with the conversation I had with my mom and now I’m super excited for my baby shower🥰🥰🥰 Again thank you to everyone who took the time to comment and tell me to put my big girl panties on and tell my mother straight😂 I may have cried a bit but at least I got to let it out and she knows now how important this is to me❤️