Just frustrating..

I work a full time job, and I work every other Saturday. My husband works random saturdays, so only if needed to meet a deadline.

I pay a sitter for my children Monday-Friday. We NEVER go out together without our children. Literally once a year for my companies Christmas party? That’s about it. So, on these rare occasional Saturdays my mom will usually keep our kids for us. But this Saturday, she has prior arrangements and feels obligated to keep them. Once, she’s told me no. Not a problem! My husbands mother will NOT keep our kids ever. She will keep her other grandchildren. They are allowed to stay the night with her, they’re over all the time, she goes places with them and does stuff with them. I asked her if she could keep them tomorrow, I’d even pay her to do so. It’s for only a half day, 4hours and the 15 min commute. So 4.5 hrs.

She told me no, because she will be with her other granddaughter. They can’t all go together? I guess not. I feel like I’m sounding spoiled or rude. But it’s not that she says no, it’s that she always says no to my children but yes to the others. And this time it’s specifically no because she will be with the others. She has also driven my sister in law to work for years!! I asked her to help me out for 3 days because my car was in the shop, and she wouldn’t do it. But she waited to tell me the night before, after I’d already dropped my car off! So I had to track down another car, luckily my mom let me drive hers.

She always says she will until the night before. At like 8PM when it’s nearly impossible to find another solution! She does this ALL the time!

It just hurts when grandparents have obvious favorites, and your children get left out.

Not to mention she treats me like I’m a looser because I’ve gotten in trouble at work over her ditching at the last second which cause me to be late so I can find a new sitter.

I hate to ask her, but if I don’t she acts like it hurts her feelings??

It’s just frustrating... thanks for letting me rant.