This is what abuse looks like

These photos are from 2015. I was in college and dating an awful man. He abused me, manipulated me, sold my belongings for weed, ruined my credit score to pay his bills, and isolated me from all friends and family. He constantly chased other women and warped my body image to self-destruction.

I dyed my hair blonde for him.

I starved myself to 95 lbs for him.

I wore skimpy clothing for him so he could show me off and boost his ego.

Everyone said I looked great. No one was concerned about me because women are just supposed to be stick-thin right? Girls would enviously ask me what my diet was. My diet was air and self-hate. I ate once a week. I would blackout from hunger and dehydration regularly. Sometimes it was hard to walk, I had weak, wobbly, baby deer legs.

This is the saddest photo of me I have ever seen. In this photo I was crying. Notice the bruises on my legs. My boyfriend took me to the park and picked the roses as an “apology.”

We dated for 5 years and I finally left him in May 2019. The picture on the right is me now, a natural brunette, a plump 130 pounds of muscle and self-love. I run marathons. I pump iron at the gym. I’m a lifeguard. I can leg-press almost 400 pounds. Standing next to me is a man I’m absolutely so in love with.

My dad comments on my weight and how I need to stop eating. It makes me so mad I want to break his nose. Maybe I’ll just take up a boxing class 😆

‼️‼️Update:

Wow!! When I posted this I did not expect so much positive feedback. Thank you ladies so much for all your kind words 😭 I’ve read every single comment and y’all have no idea how much it means to me. It makes me sad that so many women can relate to my situation. I’m definitely one of the lucky ones who got out before it was too late.

Know your worth, ask yourself if you would be okay with your daughter/sister/mother being treated like this. Leave any situation that doesn’t serve you, make you happy, or help you grow.

Much love 💕💕💕