I feel like my femininity is being attacked

So...I chopped my hair for work. It was either chop it or keep it in a tight military bun (something that takes too much time and effort for me. I’m not good at buns). So I chopped it. Just learned tonight that my fiancé has been taking testosterone supplements to help him get it up. Because with my hair pixie short, all he can think is that I look like a guy and he’s not physically attracted enough to me now to be able to get hard around me...I least didn’t like my haircut. Now....even my boss made a comment about me looking like a lesbian. I’m not.