Not orgasming during sex..?

Okay, imma post this anon so I don’t feel too uncomfy.

I recently just got into my first relationship.. and naturally, I lost my virginity to him 3 days ago. We’ve had sex all three days and I haven’t orgasmed once.

My partner and I bought ribbed condoms to try and see if that would work tonight and while it drove me crazy while he was simultaneously stimulating my clit.. I still didn’t orgasm.

It’s bothering him because he’s older by 7 years (I’m 23, he’s 30) and has had many.. many partners. He’s apparently never had this issue and he’s starting to blame himself. I’ve tried telling him that it isn’t his fault, that me being a virgin and not being use to it could be effecting it.

We’ve tried different positions but I still. Cannot. ORGASM. I’ve masturbated practically my whole life (clit stimulation) and have only been able to make myself cum once with stimulation and penetration.

Does anyone else have / have had this issue? What worked for you?

I honestly think some of it is mental. I’ll be horny physically in the moment but my head isn’t entirely in the game. I loveeee making him cum (we use condoms) and feeling him pulsate inside. Knowing I can help pleasure him and bring him to that shuddering ecstasy feels great!!

I honestly feel bad about it. I feel like I’m letting him down. I know in my right mind that is NOT the truth. But he looks and expresses how disappointed in himself he is after he finishes and I tell him that I didn’t orgasm.

I really don’t wanna fake it but.. I tried to tonight. I gave up on it and just told him I felt it a little. If faking it and lying just once would make him happy.. I’m tempted to do it.

Any advice? I obviously know bring a vibrator into the picture with more foreplay would be great. I also know that with him being my first sexual partner.. it may take a bit to find what works for us. I just honestly fear I’m not gonna be enough. I wanna be estancia over this relationship.. but I’m scared. I love him and I wanna be in his life for a long time. I honestly feel like he needs someone like me. (No cocky shit lol circumstances and past experiences make me think a woman who’s slower and more caring would do him well!!)

If you have any similar experience and would like to share what worked for you, feel free to drop it down below!!

Thank you!!