Weight gain

I was just wondering how much weight people have gained? I'm 5'5" and weighed 169 when I became pregnant. I was over weight but I was a gymnast and like to think I had more muscle than fat. Anyways, at my midwife appointment a few days ago they said I was gaining too much weight too fast. They gave me a graph of where I should be and I was this big fat black dot outside the area 😥 This whole time I felt like I was doing good and felt so good about myself and now I'm just depressed and hate my body. I've gained 12 pounds and I'm 21 weeks. Just wondering what other people, similar in size, have gained? Pic below was taken at 20 weeks 6 days